Problem von Anonym - 25 Jahre

Zukunftsangst

Hallo Liebes Kummer Kasten Team ich wollte euch vorab schonmal sagen das ich eure Arbeit wirklich sehr toll finde und ich schon seit Jahren Stiller Leser bin!

Jetzt zu meinen eigentlichen Problem wie ihr im Titel bereits lesen könnt hab ich extreme Zukunftsangst... Meine aktuelle Berufliche Situation belastet mich sehr ich bin jetzt seit knapp einem halben Jahr wieder Arbeitslos und sitze zuhause und weiß nicht genau was ich machen soll ? ich habe vorher 3 Jahre im Krankenhaus gearbeitet an der Rezeption mein Vertrag wurde jedoch nach den 3 Jahren nicht verlängert aus diversen Gründen interne Probleme dann kam Corona hinzu! Ich muss dazu sagen das ich seit meiner Geburt eine Gehbehinderung habe um genau zusein eine Spastik in den Beinen also ich Humpel! Das alles macht es für mich nicht gerade leichter da ich keine körperliche Arbeit leisten kann sondern nur was im Sitzen in frage käme. Mein Handicap ist auch noch was mich schon mein ganzes Leben immer runtergezogen hat egal in welcher Hinsicht sei es bei Thema Frauen Hobbys oder Freunde ich konnte nie irgendwie Anschluss finden das hat mich über die Jahre so fertig gemacht das ich starke Depressionen bekommen habe diese Einsamkeit gepaart mit meiner aktuellen Beruflichen Lage ich komm darauf überhaupt nicht klar ich bin so verzweifelt weil ich kein Licht am Ende vom Tunnel sehe...

Ich danke euch im Voraus für eine Antwort!

Nuala Anwort von Nuala

Lieber Unbekannter,

hab' vielen Dank für dein Lob, das freut uns :)
Hat sich in der Zwischenzeit etwas getan? Ich wünsche es dir sehr.
Ganz grundlegend gesprochen sind Zukunftsängste wohl extrem präsent in diesen Zeiten. Corona hat da schon einiges durcheinandergewirbelt. Vielleicht kannst du das Ganze aber auch als Chance zum Neuanfang begreifen. Versuche, dich nicht in Ängste zu verstricken, sondern Schritt für Schritt an dem zu arbeiten, was dir wirklich gut tut. Begreife deine Behinderung als einen Teil von dir, den du immer mehr akzeptierst. Je mehr du lernst, dich selbst zu schätzen, mit all deinen Besonderheiten und Einschränkungen, desto erfüllter und zufriedener wirst du leben können und desto mehr Erfolge stellen sich ein. Dein Körper ist nichts, was du bekämpfen solltest. Nimm dich selbst in den Arm. Du hast alle Liebe der Welt verdient.

Ich verlinke dir gleich noch diverse Zuschriften, die du möglicherweise sogar schon kennst. Ich lege sie dir dennoch sehr ans Herz!
Ich weiß nicht, ob bei dir eine Depression diagnostiziert wurde. Vermutlich kann dir die Deutsche Depressionshilfe so oder so nützlich sein: https://www.deutsche-depressionshilfe.de/start

* https://mein-kummerkasten.de/311082/Selbstmordgedanken-und-andere-Probleme.html
* https://mein-kummerkasten.de/290453/Allgemeine-Unzufriedenheit-und-aengste.html
* https://mein-kummerkasten.de/333066/Haesslich-dick-kein-selbstbewusst.html
* https://mein-kummerkasten.de/331609/bin-ueberfordert-mit-mir-selbst.html


Und guck mal, das habe ich vorhin gefunden und möchte es mit dir teilen (zwar auf Englisch, aber das Meiste kannst du bestimmt verstehen):

"Reasons why you should stay alive.

1. We would miss you.
2. It's not worth the regret. Either by yourself if you failed or just simply left scars, or the regret everyone else feels by not doing enough to help you.
3. It does get better. Believe it or not it will eventually get better. Sometimes you have to go through the storm to get to the rainbow.
4. There's so much you would miss out on doing.
5. There is always a reason to live. It might not be clear right now, but it is always there.
6. So many people care, and it would hurt them if you hurt yourself.
7. You ARE worth it. Don't let anyone, especially yourself, tell you otherwise.
8. You are amazing.
9. A time will come, once you've battled the toughest times of your life and are in ease once again, where you will be so glad that you decided to keep on living. You will emerge stronger from this all, and won't regret your choice to carry on with life. Because things always get better.
10. What about all the things you've always wanted to do? What about the things you've planned, but never got around to doing? You can't do them when you're dead.
11. I love you. Even if only one person loves you, that's still a reason to stay alive.
12. You won't be able to listen to music if you die.
13. Killing yourself is never worth it. You'll hurt both yourself and all the people you care about.
14. There are so many people that would miss you, including me.
15. You're preventing a future generation, YOUR KIDS, from even being born.
16. How do you think your family would feel? Would it improve their lives if you died?
17. You're gorgeous, amazing, and to someone you are perfect.
18. Think about your favourite music artist, you'll never hear their voice again...
19. You'll never have the feeling of walking into a warm building on a cold day
20. Listening to incredibly loud music
21. Being alive is just really good.
22. Not being alive is really bad.
23. Finding your soulmate.
24. Red pandas
25. Going to diners at three in the morning.
26. Really soft pillows.
27. Eating pizza in New York City.
28. Proving people wrong with your success.
29. Watching the jerks that doubted you fail at life.
30. Seeing someone trip over a garbage can.
31. Being able to help other people.
32. Bonfires.
33. Sitting on rooftops.
34. Seeing every single country in the world.
35. Going on roadtrips.
36. You might win the lottery someday.
37. Listening to music on a record player.
38. Going to the top of the Eiffel Tower.
39. Taking really cool pictures.
40. Literally meeting thousands of new people.
41. Hearing crazy stories.
42. Telling crazy stories.
43. Eating ice cream on a hot day.
44. More Harry Potter books could come out, you never know.
45. Travelling to another planet someday.
46. Having an underwater house.
47. Randomly running into your hero on the street.
48. Having your own room at a fancy hotel.
49. Trampolines.
50. Think about your favourite movie, you'll never watch it again.
51. Think about the feeling of laughing out loud in a public place because your best friend has just sent you an inside joke,
52. Your survival will make the world better, even if it's for just one person or 20 or 100 or more.
53. People do care.
54. Treehouses
55. Hanging out with your soul mate in a treehouse
55. Snorting when you laugh and not caring who sees
56. I don't even know you and I love you.
57. I don't even know you and I care about you.
58. Because nobody is going to be like you ever, so embrace your uniqueness!
59. You won't be here to experience the first cat world emperor.
60. WHAT ABOUT FOOD?! YOU'LL MISS CHOCOLATE AND ALL THE OTHER NOM THINGS!
61. Starbucks.
62. Hugs.
63. Stargazing.
64. You have a purpose, and it's up to you to find out what it is.
65. You've changed somebody's life.
66. Now you could change the world.
67. You will meet the person that's perfect for you.
68. No matter how much or how little, you have your life ahead of you.
69. You have the chance to save somebody's life.
70. If you end your life, you're stopping yourself from achieving great things.
71. Making snow angels.
72. Making snowmen.
73. Snowball fights.
74. Life is what you make of it.
75. Everybody has a talent.
76. Laughing until you cry.
77. Having the ability to be sad means you have the ability to be happy.
78. The world would not be the same if you didn't exist.
79. Its possible to turn frowns, upside down
80. Be yourself, don't take anyone's shit, and never let them take you alive.
81. Heroes are ordinary people who make themselves extraordinary. Be your own hero.
82. Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections.
83. One day your smile will be real.
84. Having a really hot, relaxing bath after a stressful day.
85. Lying on grass and laughing at the clouds.
86. Getting completely smashed with your best friends.
87. Eating crazy food.
88. Staying up all night watching your favourite films with a loved one.
89. Sleeping in all day.
90. Creating something you're proud of.
91. You can look back on yourself 70 years later and being proud you didn't commit
92. Being able to meet your Internet friends.
93. Tea / Coffee / Hot Chocolate
94. The new season of Sherlock
95. Cuddling under the stars.
96. Being stupid in public because you just can.
97. If you are reading this then you are alive! Is there any more reason to smile?
98. being able to hug that one person you havent seen in years
99. People care enough about you and your future to come up with 100 reasons for you not to do this.
100. But, the final and most important one is, just, being able to experience life. Because even if your life doesn't seem so great right now, literally anything could happen
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From someone that cares about you <3 "


Ich grüße dich herzlich!
Nuala